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February 2010

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Friends. . .

I was glancing through my friend's list this morning, and I noticed that some people who used to have me listed as a friend had removed me from their lists. I'm not entirely sure if I should be annoyed, upset, indifferent, or what.

I know I've seen entries from some people who get very upset or angry over being removed from someone's friends list, and I can understand why. In a way, it's like that person is saying, "I don't like you enough to read your journal anymore." A simple careless gesture by someone else, likely without any malicious intent, and yet in our quest for acceptance and love, we turn it into an insult.

What's odd, is how difficult it is not to do this. For example, at least one of the people who removed me from their friends list, I barely knew. I'd only read a few of their entries, found them interesting, so I added them. They reciprocated a few days later. However, we rarely commented on each other's entries, and I don't even know if they were really reading mine.

Additionally, the fact that I spent most of January, and much of February, almost completely absent from LiveJournal may very well have played into why the people who removed me from their friend's list did so. Friends lists have a tendency to grow rather rapidly if not checked, and it's necessary to remove crufty entries at regular intervals.

I always like to think I'm not too crufty, but then again, what do I know. ;-)

I've decided that since I still enjoy reading their journals, however, I'm going to leave them on my friends list. Perhaps at some point in the future, they'll decide to reciprocate again.

And if they don't, that's cool too.

After a little bit of thought, just prior to writing this entry, I considered why I should or shouldn't be affected by being removed from their friends listing, and I realized honestly don't care if a bunch of random people read this or not. I'm writing this journal primarily for me, and to a slightly lesser extent for the handful of good friends I have that also read this.

Well, that and because there are a lot of really interesting people on LiveJournal, and I enjoy reading their journals and "meet"ing them. ;-)

To that end, I decided to play around with the Find Users By Interest feature of LJ, and specifically, the Similar Users function, which allows me to search for people who match some of my interests.

I looked through the top 10 people or so, and one of the journals really jumped out and caught my attention. This being the journal for fey. She seems really interesting, and I encourage everyone else to take a peek at her journal, too. ;-)

Right below that, I came across another very interesting looking person, ailynn. The first thing that struck me, was her user pic. This is one of the coolest looking pictures I've seen in a long time. I really like it. That, and curiously enough, I noticed after adding her that she has fey listed as a friend, too. Interesting coincidence. ;-)

I then came across petfish's entry, at which point I figured I was hitting the dregs of the list. <g>

Luckily, I didn't let that discourage me, and I then noticed piman. I remember him from the #LiveJournal channel, and I even remember thinking that I needed to add him to my friend's list. Honestly, I'm not sure why I didn't, and I think that I thought that I had. Oh, well, I have now.

So goes another day in the Game of Life.

Comments

i always get my feelings hurt when people drop me, even if they don't read me at all. i'm just too sensitive ;)

ailynn does have an awesome user picture! she seems like an interesting person, too :) i don't know if i want to add anyone else though, i just made some major cuts, so i'm going to hold off for awhile.

Yeah. . .

I know what you mean. It's getting to the point where I don't have time to keep up with everyone anymore. I'm considering doing some cleaning myself, but I can't think of where to start. ;-)

Re: Yeah. . .

well, i know i post way too much, so if you decide to spring clean me, i'll understand ;) as long as you don't leave moviemaniacs!!!!!!!

Re: Yeah. . .

You don't have anything to worry about right now. ;-)

Anyone who regularly comments in my journal, or who's journal I regularly comment in, is someone I'm keeping. ;-)

Re: Yeah. . .

heehee, yay! why don't you post that often?
I try not to but I do feel slightly insulted if someone removes me off of there friends list, especially when you had them on your list for a while. It is like you are not important anymore. Like you are boring. Ah well.
aww toph, i cleaned mine out and kept you coz yer so cute:P

Aww.

You're so sweet. ;-)

thanks guys!

thank you all for your nice comments on my user pic :) i actually fell in love with it the moment i saw it... but unfortunately i didn't make it myself :( but i did edit it a bit...

it is from the book "Good Faeries / Bad Faeries", a very awesome book, which has tons of pictures of faeries and lovely descriptions along with them as well... not only did this faery (which is called "The Faery of Dark Despair" if you ever happen to pick up the book...) instantly catch my eye, but the description that goes along with it as well...

but i will leave SOME suspense, so you will have to get the book if you really want to know.. or just ask :)

anyways... i like your journal Topher, you have a lot of the same ideas as i do for life... like all your religion talk seems to be very closely related to mine. and i love to see a christian whose mind is as open as yours. it is truly a refressing thing..

Re: thanks guys!

Thank you, for the comment, and the book title. I have a friend who absolutely loves fairies, so I think I'm gonna have to find that for her.

And, maybe for myself, as well. ;-)
Pfft.

Awww. . .

You're so sweet, Alipooh. ;-)

Miffed

I used to get kind of annoyed when I add people to my friends list and they don't add me. I guess its sort of a reciprocity thing for me. But I realize that even if I find some folks massively interesting, they may find me boring and choose not to waste their time reading my journal. Now I just shrug it off.

Re: Miffed

I'm glad you posted a comment here. I've seen you mentioned in minki's jounral a number of times, and I kept meaning to investigate your journal. I guess I just never got around to it, until today.

I'm glad I did. ;-)